“Choose Your Battles” Doesn’t Mean “Avoid” All Battles.

by Shaun Kieran

Last week I heard that phrase – “choose your battles” – three times in barely half a day, and all three times it was someone being supportive of a friend who’d decided not to bang heads with their adolescent. Of course, I’ve used that phrase myself, and I’m not big on confrontation just to do it, but …. […]

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Those nasty F bombs: following up

by Shaun Kieran

  I promised I’d follow up on this topic at the end of the “My ex has someone new” post. Many of us steer clear of this issue because a) we’re guilty of using foul language ourselves, and b) things have deteriorated so badly “out there” that hardly anyone wants to look hypocritical or self-righteous […]

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Ask Shaun: My Ex Has Someone New (and she’s a piece of work)

by Shaun Kieran

Shaun- My ex and I were divorced about five years ago when our two kids were six and four. Since then my ex has had a new wife, another child, another divorce, and several live-in girlfriends. Even though I’m not always thrilled by my ex’s choices, we’ve done a pretty good job cooperating with each […]

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Discouraged Teachers

by Shaun Kieran

It’s incredible that we keep finding new teachers with the commitment and optimism to walk into today’s  classrooms, and who succeed at conducting their classes just the way they’d always imagined back when they decided to become teachers. They’re becoming more rare – sadly. More and more, that fundamental  interaction between a teacher and his […]

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Good Supervisors Acknowledge Good Employees

by Shaun Kieran

My vast readership usually lands here and finds case studies addressing real-world problems that tend to pop up with regularity in today’s workplaces.  This time, however, I’d like to address the topic of incentives during hard economic times. The best supervisors, in addition to all the work they do themselves, manage to let the people […]

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Inching Down the Limb

by Shaun Kieran

I’m big on humility since,  in addition to having lots to be personally humble about, it turns out that being humble is also when the best learning  occurs.  Right now is a good example.  I used to think I was pretty decent at sensing the Zeitgeist, had a good early handle on the likely public “take” on an […]

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Question: What’s the Difference Between Coaching and Consulting?

by Shaun Kieran

Since I do both, I’ve often been asked, “What’s the differences between coaching and consulting?” Fo businesses, the distinction is  straightforward: coaching means the process of working directly with personnel to achieve higher performance – by effectively listening, supporting, challenging, and facilitating personal development and learning. It’s a role, and it’s about interacting dynamically to help someone be […]

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What About Bob?

by Shaun Kieran

Not all managers come straight from grad school with their MBA.  All across the country workplaces promote line employees into supervisory and management positions. And one of the many challenges a new manager can face is having to manage the very people who were previously coworkers and friends. Here’s an audio that looks at an all-too-common scenario:   […]

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Anger Toward Her Anguish

by Shaun Kieran

  Mine isn’t a high-traffic blog, but I’ve gotten some interesting exchanges anyway. I put this post and comments about coaching highly intelligent people on two of my blogs – I felt there was a poignant quality to the exchange. Now I’ve received a very harsh comment from someone who, I first thought, might even know the writer and her […]

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Ask Shaun: Should I Fight the Layoff?

by Shaun Kieran

Shaun- To make a long story short, I’ve worked 11 years for a local Credit Union that’s “merged” with (been taken over by) a larger, statewide group of CU’s 18 months ago. It’s the only job I’ve ever had. I started as a teller, and now I manage the office that does collections and billings. […]

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