A Cure for Hyper-Parenting – NYTimes.com

by Shaun Kieran

I really liked the gist of this article, especially the point that “the problem with hyper-parenting isn’t that it’s bad for children; it’s that it’s bad for parents.”  And that’s the part that’s bad for the children.  Kids shouldn’t be able to actually succeed at turning their parents inside out. Read it here:  A Cure […]

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We don’t really get too far out of our comfort zones, even with important things like parenting, unless we’re aware of our “Latitudes of Acceptance.”

by Shaun Kieran

Latitudes of Acceptance | Edge.org. It’s probably not a surprise when I acknowledge that I can usually tell fairly quickly whether my work with a client will bear fruit or not. Certainly a lot of it is intuition from all the years doing this work, not firm, empirical data – plus I’m always careful to be humble enough not […]

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The Perils of Attachment Parenting – The Atlantic

by Shaun Kieran

  The Perils of Attachment Parenting – The Atlantic. I’m amazed at what’s happening.  Basic common sense has left the building! The author doesn’t go nearly far enough conveying her skepticism. Attachment problems that truly affect children are inherently severe: mental illness and addiction resulting in severe negligence, abuse, or abandonment. The idea that you’re […]

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New Statesman | Think before you act: against the modern cult of spontaneity

by Shaun Kieran

Amen. Amen. Amen.   New Statesman | Think before you act: against the modern cult of spontaneity.   This is one of the major “themes” of my work.  Too many people “do” before they think about why they’re doing it – and then are shocked at the consequences.   Shaun Kieran ShaunKpro@gmail.com  (207) 767-3864

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“Thank God It’s Monday”: Funny, if it wasn’t also so sad

by Shaun Kieran

In many ways my job, being “helpful,” has gotten slightly easier. That’s not because the problems themselves have become less difficult or complex. It’s that people can go much longer than ever just pushing through their stress, waiting until they’re totally saturated, before they finally (maybe) ask themselves how they got into the situation they’re […]

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Persistent truth: 12-step programs quietly serve

by Shaun Kieran

I’m recalling the moment. It’s probably around 1983. I’m getting very warm behind my eyes as I’m reading one of those dog-eared, two-page sheets listing the characteristics associated with being the Adult Child of an Alcoholic (ACOA). For most of my life until then, I’d been pretty much sealed-over, protecting both family privacy and my […]

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Why You Hate Work – NYTimes.com

by Shaun Kieran

My friend Rik pointed me to this article. Why You Hate Work – NYTimes.com.  Excerpt: Feeling cared for by one’s supervisor has a more significant impact on people’s sense of trust and safety than any other behavior by a leader. Employees who say they have more supportive supervisors are 1.3 times as likely to stay […]

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Little Children and Already Acting Mean – WSJ.com

by Shaun Kieran

This is a growing cultural tendency I wish we could stop in its tracks.  It’s as serious as an out-of-control deficit. Little Children and Already Acting Mean – WSJ.com. Parents are teachers. Teach kindness and empathy – please. Shaun Kieran ShaunKpro@gmail.com  (207) 767-3864

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Adam Grant’s Give and Take: A theory that says generous people do better at work than selfish ones.

by Shaun Kieran

A nice article that confirms what we want to be true. A regrettable reality is that human services workplaces are not loaded with “givers.”  They’re there, but not in droves.  There are far more “matchers” and “takers” (to use the article’s parlance.) Sadly, actual behavior at work adapts to the workplace culture – and despite the […]

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A Conversation about “Futurism” – and possible futures.

by Shaun Kieran

Jay and I have enjoyed our conversations from the day we met. Rather than be too fussy about editing perfection, here’s our “first draft” – setting the tone for what will be coming. Click play:

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